How Do I Feel Good About My Family and Truly Accept Their Path?

I’ve spent my life trying to free myself from being negatively affected by my mother and siblings’ hardships. I apply what I’ve learned, and most of the time, I feel good. However, whenever I think about my family’s struggles or spend time with them, I slip out of alignment, become angry, and feel like I should fix their situation. How can I truly accept their path, make peace with their decisions, and feel good when I think of them?